I AM THAT GIRL: A Manifesto
I ran into a friend's mother at the gym last week, a wonderfully serendipitous little encounter that turned into a vibrant conversation about the excitement and stress of life as a twenty-something, and the importance of finding your passion and living in the moment as your most authentic self.
She recommended a book to me, I AM THAT GIRL by Alexis Jones. Admittedly skeptical at first mention, I felt inspired by her enthusiasm and loved the idea of having a reason to start a little "book club" across the miles with some of my best girl friends, near and far. (I have to take my nose out of my anatomy and philosophy library sometime!) I downloaded the Kindle edition as I walked to my car and have barely put it down since. Alexis effortlessly articulates profound wisdom with a modern, authentic voice. She's not afraid to use the word "Awesome!" or mention the darkest moments in her life. Her tone is instantly relatable, creating the opportunity for the reader to genuinely take ownership of the lessons to be learned and inspiration to be gained.
It's a reminder of the important things for any of us women, and for all of us humans.
Words to live by:
That Girl Manifesto
"I am enough. I have enough. I do enough.
I am me. Every day.
Not who I think others expect me to be,
But the real, unedited, beauty-full, perfectly flawed version.
I speak my truth.
And wrestle with life's tough questions over and over again.
I daydream about a better world and strive to make it my reality.
My purpose drives me
And I give it the freedom to change and evolve.
I breathe life into my dreams and to the dreams of others.
I believe in magic. I look for it everywhere.
I make an adventure of ordinary things.
Create, imagine, reinvent, get lost.
I do things that inspire me.
I defy the odds, raise my hand, sit at the table, and lean in.
I refuse to give up.
I pursue my passion at all costs, I do things that terrify me.
My head dances among the stars, and my feet remain on mother earth.
I'm willing to ask the hard questions, to take changes, to love with my whole heart.
My mistakes and failures make me stronger.
I do not ascribe my worth to external validation, but to my character.
I surround myself with phenomenal people,
Especially ones who don't always agree with me.
I choose authenticity over perfection.
I appreciate the small details that tend to do unnoticed by others.
My worth is innate and immeasurable. I try to remind myself of that, daily.
I exercise patience as often as possible,
Stay vulnerable even when I want to close my heart.
And practice coexisting with things that make me uncomfortable.
I set boundaries, work to honor them,
And am willing to edit people out of my life who don't.
I walk more than a mile in other people's shoes,
And suspend judgement as long as humanly possible.
I remember to laugh more, stress less, forgive often, and inject love everywhere I can.
I do my best to relinquish every ounce of control because it's futile.
I throw my hands up, close my eyes, and
Revel in life's awesome and mysterious ride.
My emotions are fleeting, they do not define me.
My choices do, and I do my best to make good ones.
I feed my body good, whole foods,
But don't punish myself for the occasional indulgence.
I move my body every day. I stretch, challenge, and honor her.
I rest when I need to.
I don't accept every invitation that comes my way.
I practice saying "no."
Show myself kindness, compassion, and unconditional love.
I am my best friend, I'm proud of me.
I share my life's lessons with others, even the not so shiny ones.
I hold nothing back, Cry when I need to,
But also recognize when I need to buck up.
I remember to breathe and in that space, I find my calm among the chaos.
I owe it to myself to be remarkable, so I am."
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Foreword by Sophia Busch:
In a crazy, media distracted world the important questions often get lost like: What’s your passion? What’s your purpose? Who do you want to be? Alexis Jones has built a career listening to and helping girls around the world figure out those questions in order to inspire them to think for themselves, to speak their truth, to discover their purpose, and to dream HUGE! Alexis believes that you’re not broken nor do you need to be fixed. You already are that girl who creates magic wherever she goes, who lives fearlessly, who inspires those around her to dream bigger, and who will leave the world better, just for having been in it.
Stop listening to that voice inside your head that tells you you’re not good enough. Stop worrying that you don’t have the perfect body, perfect job, perfect relationship, or perfect anything for that matter. Stop letting other people draw boundaries and limits around your life. And start living the life that you truly want (now!), the one you didn’t think you had the courage to imagine, but the one that’s absolutely possible! Including stories from thirty incredible women, Alexis has compiled everything she’s learned into one complete guide to being That Girl, the best version of you.